Definition: Empath ~ a person or animal who physically, emotionally, and intuitively feels the emotions, pains, and joys of the people, creatures, and environment around them.
Upside of being an empath: Using the gift of intuitive feeling that comes from unconscious body sensation to anticipate and manage needs of self and others in positive, meaningful ways
Downside of being an empath: getting lost and confused unable to separate what are their own feelings from the feelings of others around them at home, at work, and in the environment.
Is one empath the same as all other empaths just because they intuitively read the people around them, and take in ALL the emotional energy coming their way?
NO! Each empath is uniquely defined by their childhood experiences of being accepted or rejected as an empath. Empaths are not all cut from the same cloth, nor are they all positive and nurturing all the time. Did you know that Empaths come in three emotional flavours? AND they often confuse people by slipping in and out of these flavours depending on the in-the-moment emotional climate. The 3 emotional flavours are Positive, Negative, and Invisible. Some empaths’ life experience encourages positivity, others who have suffered and endured the pain of being the empath naturally fall into negativity, and then there is the invisible empath. This person chooses to wear an invisibility cloak, blocking them from all feeling. The invisible empath unconsciously chooses not to feel their own emotions, those of the people around them, and most certainly blocks the pain of the world that has access to their minds and hearts.
Does society expect all empaths to be the same? Is there more than one healthy empathic personality type?
Simple answer… It seems like society expects empaths to all be soft, nervous, and unable to protect themselves. Society assumes that because empaths feel what others feel that they will be the nurturers sacrificing their health for the good of others. As the 4 empath personality profiles show there are 4 very distinct categories of empaths, each operating independently and uniquely.
Of course there is NOT one personality type for all empaths! Empaths come in 4 personality types, exactly like all other people. AND these personality types also at times overlap each other. This means that every empath has one major personality type BUT also minors in one or two of the other possibilities.
The four empath personalities are: Leader, Nurturer, Analyzer, Promoter
Using the example above you can begin to see how YOU major in one personality type and minor in one or more of another personality type. Your empowerment comes from know which personality types are yours and exploring how you use them to support your best life. Knowing how you show up in the world as nurturer, leader, analyzer, or promoter gives structure to how you are recognized by others and how they “need” you in their lives. Learning how you show up, and how these personalities affect your life is essential to being comfortable with yourself, feeling at ease in your own skin able to manage everything else coming from everyone else. There is training for this kind of inner work that is both quick and effective in changing how you see yourself, and how others see and interact with you.
What Else Do Empaths Need To Know About Who They Are Being
Don’t laugh yet! When you get a weird taste in your mouth just before a stressful, or exciting situation happens, this is your unconscious body talking to your primitive mind because it has picked up on vibrations around you. And this is how you empathically anticipate what is about to happen BEFORE it happens (external emotional vibration smacking up against your outer shields). Without training, you get the taste, but usually don’t connect it to anything beyond what you ate a few hours earlier. Fight or flight survival depends on you knowing your reactions right down to HOW something or someone tastes.
Empaths need to know that within each personality profile, there are 3 emotional choices. You choose your basic emotional flavor. This means that YOU choose the sweet flavor of positivity, joy, appreciation, gratitude, etc. You also choose the sour flavor of negativity, fear, control, abuse. Don’t stop here because there is a third and often overlooked bland flavor of invisibility, isolation, extreme self-protection.
Yes! Emotional identity has a specific flavor! Others unconsciously taste your flavor when they interact with you and react based on how you taste to them. There is training for YOU to “know” who you are, and “how” you are unconsciously felt by others. Knowing this about yourself it is Step #1 to discovering what your emotional personality tastes like. Are you sweet, sour, or bland? Knowing this is also Step #2, in learning how others impact you and your unconscious reactions to them, or to anticipating situations before they happen so you can make different, better choices than you have made in the past. You can change your future by leaning about your empathic intuitive sensations, this is Step #3.
Example: A doctor may be either a nurturer or an analyzer personality. The nurturer in this doctor wants to heal everyone, the analyzer in this doctor is all about the research and data that finds the cure or finds the diagnosis that requires the correct cure. That same doctor may be stronger as the researcher and minor in the nurturer. He may not be a great cheerleader convincing others or getting them excited about following his suggestions (psychic nudge in the right direction), and may not be a great leader (strongly influencing others choices and decisions), BUT he may be brilliant at intuiting the correct diagnosis based on what he senses coming from his patient, and from connecting what he knows about the research he does on the patient’s symptoms.
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