The Pain and The JOY of Being an Empath: 


40 Life Defining Habits All Empaths Share 


Definition: Empath ~ a person or animal who physically, emotionally, and intuitively feels the emotions, pains, and joys of the people, creatures, and environment around them.

Upside of being an empath: Using the gift of intuitive feeling that comes from unconscious body sensation to anticipate and manage needs of self and others in positive, meaningful ways

Downside of being an empath: getting lost and confused unable to separate what are their own feelings from the feelings of others around them at home, at work, and in the environment.


40 Habits ALL Empaths Share:

  • 1. Empaths know what they know without knowing how they know it.
  • 2. Empaths act on what they know they know intuitively
  • 3. Trained empaths choose strategies based on understanding what their physical body tells them is about to happen so they can better control their own responses in a healthy way with a more positive, healthy outcome.
  • 4. Empaths experience intensified reactions to smells, sounds, touch, light, tastes
  • 5. Empaths often feel like they are the only ones in the world who are “cursed” with feeling ALL they feel
  • 6. Untrained empathic children often create rich inner worlds and seem disconnected from the real world. This is how they protect themselves from the stress they feel from the adults in their lives.
  • 7. Trained empathic children know how to integrate their rich inner fantasy world with their real life
  • 8. Untrained empaths are often exhausted by being around others in stressful situations
  • 9. Trained empaths are excited being part of a group of like-minded empowered people
  • 10. Empaths are often creative thinkers with an imaginative flair, artistic abilities, able to reproduce their feelings through words, thought, deed, or art touching the souls of the people who see, work with, or buy their creations.
  • 11. Empaths feel physical sensations in their bodies and emotion in their minds which precede intellectual meaning being formed
  • 12. Empaths anticipate love and conflict using intuitive body talk (butterflies in stomach, pain the neck or elsewhere, tightness in throat, shoulders, etc.) unique to themselves
  • 13. Empaths can “feel” future events as a sense of anticipation or dread ‘knowing’ without really knowing that something is going to happen
  • 14. Untrained empaths often feel overwhelmed and chaotic unable to control the flood of incoming emotions from their environment – home, work, TV, news shows, movies, road rage, the Mall, large groups of people, etc. 
  • 15. Empaths are frequently misdiagnosed with mental disorders and conditions because it’s difficult to diagnose body talk sensations coming from others.
  • 16. Empaths who know how to use their gifts are the most emotionally stable and responsible go-to people in their communities.
  • 17. Empaths suffer more from stress overwhelm and illness than others
  • 18. Trained empaths successfully manage their own stress in ways that positively and unconsciously reduce the stress environment for themselves and for everyone around them
  • 19. Trained empaths deflect and return negative stress coming from others
  • 20. Empaths either hide from others choosing to protectively isolate themselves, or on the flip-side become the cheerleaders, leaders (positive and negative) that use their ability to influence (psychically ‘nudge’) others into doing their will (salespeople, politicians, world leaders)
  • 21. Trained empaths understand how, why, and when to use their ability to energetically influence others
  • 22. Empaths experience illnesses which defy diagnosis
  • 23. Trained empaths do not take in energetic vibrations of others that mimic illness in their own body
  • Empaths are natural protectionists – building emotional walls to isolate themselves from incoming negative, hostile, unhealthy, needy energies
  • 24. Trained empaths are able to live fully functioning lives in the real world, doing meaningful work and fulfilling their life purpose
  • 25. Untrained empaths become introverts and hermits to block confusing and overwhelming emotions incoming from others
  • 26. Trained empaths become leaders and healers creating better lives for themselves and others
  • 27. Untrained empaths attract narcissists and abusers
  • 28. Trained empaths know how to set physical and emotional boundaries for respect that build strong, loving, mutually supportive relationships with life partners
  • 29. All empaths build strong relationships; positive, negative, co-dependent, nurturing by using their intuitive skills of “reading” others’ needs, wants, and desires
  • 30. Empaths are excellent doctors, natural healers, alternative medicine providers, emergency service workers such as ambulance personnel, first responders, firefighters
  • 31. Empaths are lawyers, accountants, and teachers
  • 32. Empaths attract bullies
  • 33. Negative Empaths become powerful bullies
  • 34. Empaths anticipate bullies and try to protect others
  • 35. Trained empaths read the need in bullies and intuitively ‘know’ how to manage them and protect others
  • 36. Untrained empaths suffer in silence, martyrdom, physical and emotional illness
  • 37. Empaths feel the excitement in the air
  • 38. Empaths feel the fear radiating from others as if it changes the air quality in some way, or is a different than usual heartbeat, or is a taste in their mouth, or makes their skin crawl. 
  • 40. Trained empaths consciously recognize physical sensation, as early warning signals something is about to happen and then sort out where those feelings are coming from, and finally consciously choose how they will manage that incoming needy, hostile, fearful energy in a healthy, supportive way.


 
Is one empath the same as all other empaths just because they intuitively read the people around them, and take in ALL the emotional energy coming their way?


NO!  Each empath is uniquely defined by their childhood experiences of being accepted or rejected as an empath. Empaths are not all cut from the same cloth, nor are they all positive and nurturing all the time.  Did you know that Empaths come in three emotional flavours?  AND they often confuse people by slipping in and out of these flavours depending on the in-the-moment emotional climate.  The 3 emotional flavours are Positive, Negative, and Invisible. Some empaths’ life experience encourages positivity, others who have suffered and endured the pain of being the empath naturally fall into negativity, and then there is the invisible empath. This person chooses to wear an invisibility cloak, blocking them from all feeling.  The invisible empath unconsciously chooses not to feel their own emotions, those of the people around them, and most certainly blocks the pain of the world that has access to their minds and hearts.


Does society expect all empaths to be the same?  Is there more than one healthy empathic personality type?
Simple answer… It seems like society expects empaths to all be soft, nervous, and unable to protect themselves.  Society assumes that because empaths feel what others feel that they will be the nurturers sacrificing their health for the good of others.  As the 4 empath personality profiles show there are 4 very distinct categories of empaths, each operating independently and uniquely.

Of course there is NOT one personality type for all empaths!   Empaths come in 4 personality types, exactly like all other people.  AND these personality types also at times overlap each other.  This means that every empath has one major personality type BUT also minors in one or two of the other possibilities.















The four empath personalities are: Leader, Nurturer, Analyzer, Promoter

Using the example above you can begin to see how YOU major in one personality type and minor in one or more of another personality type.  Your empowerment comes from know which personality types are yours and exploring how you use them to support your best life.  Knowing how you show up in the world as nurturer, leader, analyzer, or promoter gives structure to how you are recognized by others and how they “need” you in their lives.  Learning how you show up, and how these personalities affect your life is essential to being comfortable with yourself, feeling at ease in your own skin able to manage everything else coming from everyone else.  There is training for this kind of inner work that is both quick and effective in changing how you see yourself, and how others see and interact with you. 


What Else Do Empaths Need To Know About Who They Are Being

Don’t laugh yet! When you get a weird taste in your mouth just before a stressful, or exciting situation happens, this is your unconscious body talking to your primitive mind because it has picked up on vibrations around you.  And this is how you empathically anticipate what is about to happen BEFORE it happens (external emotional vibration smacking up against your outer shields). Without training, you get the taste, but usually don’t connect it to anything beyond what you ate a few hours earlier.  Fight or flight survival depends on you knowing your reactions right down to HOW something or someone tastes.

Empaths need to know that within each personality profile, there are 3 emotional choices.  You choose your basic emotional flavor.  This means that YOU choose the sweet flavor of positivity, joy, appreciation, gratitude, etc. You also choose the sour flavor of negativity, fear, control, abuse. Don’t stop here because there is a third and often overlooked bland flavor of invisibility, isolation, extreme self-protection.

Yes! Emotional identity has a specific flavor!  Others unconsciously taste your flavor when they interact with you and react based on how you taste to them. There is training for YOU to “know” who you are, and “how” you are unconsciously felt by others. Knowing this about yourself it is Step #1 to discovering what your emotional personality tastes like.  Are you sweet, sour, or bland? Knowing this is also Step #2, in learning how others impact you and your unconscious reactions to them, or to anticipating situations before they happen so you can make different, better choices than you have made in the past.  You can change your future by leaning about your empathic intuitive sensations, this is Step #3.   

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Example:  A doctor may be either a nurturer or an analyzer personality.  The nurturer in  this doctor wants to heal everyone, the analyzer in this doctor is all about the research and data that finds the cure or finds the diagnosis that requires the correct cure.  That same doctor may be stronger as the researcher and minor in the nurturer.  He may not be a great cheerleader convincing others or getting them excited about following his suggestions (psychic nudge in the right direction), and may not be a great leader (strongly influencing others choices and decisions), BUT he may be brilliant at intuiting the correct diagnosis based on what he senses coming from his patient, and from connecting what he knows about the research he does on the patient’s symptoms.  

All material copyright to Sue Rumack, Pulse of Awakening,  2015.  
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